Helping a friend through a time of grief means respecting her loss and having staying power, that is, not running away from her grief, listening quietly, offering assistance for more mundane things, letting her weep [because that is cathartic]. I also like to offer some of my art, something painted in soft, gentle colours, and a token into which I've woven loving thoughts and a prayer or two for healing.
We don't have to take on the grief, we just have to be present and be gentle and kind. I know. I've been there.
Simplicity is the removal of the useless and the unnecessary--source unknown